holding hands

no one told me that one day, my child would be old enough to wipe his own bottom without supervision. one day I would not fret over spilled food, high fever or struggle with feelings of inadequacy and guilt. and that my heart would ache, oh so much, realizing that motherhood is not about feeding little bellies or shaping characters anymore. it is about providing my sons with a sense of safety and consistency. it is about helping them make their own choices, and fully understand the consequences of those choices. it is about preparing them for a life where they will no longer need me.

Golden Gate Bridge - Polaroid Pinhole

Comments

[kristen]

this is achingly beautiful and a feeling i think of often as my girl grows up.

[Chookooloonks]

I'm not quite where you are on this journey, but I think I'm close.

Beautifully written, Irene. You're facility with the English language amazes me -- seriously, most native-English-speakers could take such a lesson from you.

[Li]

this makes me go teary eye irene.
it's so so true.

[Sarah-Ji]

Parenting's been hard lately...Thanks for giving me a little bit of perspective.

P.S. Love the photo!

[jane]

i think i am going to cry now.
very well put

[jenny]

This inspires me, Irene. Somedays I would be a confused mom and find myself trying to do more than necessary partly sad that Joan's growing way too fast for me. Your beautiful words help me look into where I'm at and learn the value of every step of motherhood.

[kosenruf mama]

i got today your book and your cards, the are wonderful!!! i really thank you for this special present for me!!! you are a very inspiring artist!!!
thank you again!!!

[Lecia]

So sad and so true!

[fly on the wall]

Exactly how I'm feeling. Well said.

[alina]

Thanks for sharing. I'm a few years behind this, and your post gives me hope.